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Technology addiction and your relationship

This last Friday, I think I made a great decision.  I got rid of my iPhone and went back to a cheap simple Nokia phone that can only call and text.  I have had some kind of smart phone/pda for the last 8 years and I never thought I would go back to a simple phone.  I never really sat back and thought about not having a smart phone.  I really think my world revolved around the phone.  A simple tool turned into almost a silent addiction and I think most of us don’t realize how a smart phone can take over our lives.

Lately, actually every weekend, I stay with Miss. Refreshingly Honest.  Our schedules are somewhat hectic during the week and we try to spend as much time together as we can during the weekend.  In the morning, the first thing I did before kissing her on the cheek, wrapping her up in my arms, and spooning her until we both are fully awake was grab my iPhone.  The morning routine with my iPhone before arousing my girlfriend to wake up for our morning run and pastry binge was check my emails, read the USA Today and NY Times Headlines,  check my workout schedule for the day, and how much money we spent the night before.

Throughout the day, I would be driving and checking my phone periodically.  “You’re going to hit and kill someone and when you go to jail, I’ll leave you!”  Miss.  Refreshingly Honest said this numerous times she said it somewhat jokingly but I knew she was serious.  We would be out at the bar and I would have my phone out on the bar top and would occasionally check it to make sure none of my friends had texted or sent me an email.  I didn’t even think about it, it was habit.  I was so used to using a smart phone for so many years and always having the constant need to respond to anything that came my way.

Now that it’s gone, I love it.  I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.  This weekend, the first thing I did when I woke up was kiss my girlfriend and tell her how much she means to  me.  We woke up early and drove around, got coffee, freshly sliced bacon, vegtables, milk, and a few other little things.  I made her a complete breakfast with scrambled eggs and veggies, bacon, and banana pancakes ALL without checking my phone.  We went to church together today and I didn’t look at my phone.  We went to the bookstore and I didn’t check my phone.  We went out on a party bus the day before and went to a ton of bars for the organziation she volunteers for, we also went to her parents house, and I never checked my phone.  She had my undivided attention and I loved it (I think she loved it too) and I felt much more attentive to her needs and everyone else around us.


1.  Taking technology out of the bedroom is a great idea.

2.  I feel less stressed because I’m not constantly worried about checking my emails, texts, and websites.

3.  I won’t hit a bicyclist or runner while driving.

4.  I listen better.


5.  My cell phone bill is a hell of a lot cheaper!

Cons (so far)

1.  No Pandora Radio at the gym.

2.  No google maps to check the traffic.

but the Pros > Cons.

  1. March 8, 2010 at 6:12 am

    I am an iphone addict for sure! I know that it is problem and that I am a little too addicted to it, but I have gone an entire day with out looking at it. Especially since the only time I see my guy is on the weekend too. I guess it is just about finding a balance. Good for you for getting away from technology and into living your life in reality!!

  2. March 8, 2010 at 9:41 am

    I just got my first smart phone in December. Right now I’m loving being connected, it’s really useful for blog purposes… but I’m sure the novelty will wear off before long!

  3. March 8, 2010 at 9:45 am


    i felt like your iphone was the other woman in your life…

  4. losangelesdaze
    March 9, 2010 at 9:27 pm

    Good for you! I don’t think I can do it. But then again, i’m not so addicted to my iPhone. I leave it unattended and on silent mode for hours only to find a bunch of missed calls and text messages.

  5. citygirlblogs
    March 13, 2010 at 10:07 am

    I don’t know that I could do this, but I like that you did (and that E is happy about it). Thankfully, the guys I’ve dated are as tech-addicted as I am. One would even let me check the phone if it rang when we were… any way ;). Hope you are having another wonderful, tech-free Saturday morning with your lady! xoxo to you both

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